Question: "Mr. McLemore, I have been engaged to be married for some months, but I have recently discovered that my fiancé has lied to me and deceived me. I am considering calling off the wedding. What do you think I should do?"

Answer: I know that you must be devastated by this revelation. Of course, you must make the decision whether to call off the wedding or not, but I can offer some insight from the Bible that might help. (Please read Genesis 2:18-25; Ephesians 5:22-33; cf. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7). According to the Bible, marriage in its very essence is a relationship of trust. It is founded upon mutual commitment, and it involves intimacy and oneness unequaled by any other human relationship. Deceit and lying are totally contrary to these concepts. A wife can hardly entrust herself to a man she cannot trust. A husband would unlikely be willing to give himself for a wife he cannot trust. It may be that your fiancé can make behavioral changes and restore your trust, but it would be very difficult and take a long time. Marriage itself will not correct major character flaws but rather is harmed by them.